Christmas is over. There’s toys, pieces of toys, and who knows what else scattered around the house. And while you’re sitting on the couch debating on how and when to start cleaning up, the doorbell rings.
Instant panic sets in. Your heartbeat increases second by second. Beads of sweat start appearing on your face. You start making your way toward the door, kicking toys out of the way and looking around at the mess you should’ve cleaned up two days ago.
What are they going to think about my house? Are they going to think I’m not a good mom? Are they going to go back and tell EVERYONE how messy my house is?
Here’s the answer: SO WHAT!!!!!!!!
Go ahead and invite in your guest that didn’t call ahead of time. And don’t say “excuse the house”! Instead just say “Come on in! Sit down if you can find a spot!” Show them how much your kids enjoyed Christmas. Let them see that you allow them to have snacks in the living room. Let them see you being a good mom.
If truth be told, your kids feed off of your feelings. For example, I had unexpected visitors one morning. My daughter was only a few weeks old. She had her days and nights mixed up, therefore we were on a third shift schedule. Without warning, three generations of my family were knocking at my door wanting to see her.
My body went into full panic mode and there was no doubt that my baby felt every bit of it. I didn’t have a bra on and couldn’t remember the last time I had showered. And yes, the house was a full blown mess! The entire time that my family was there, my daughter cried without pause. It was then that I realized that it was not worth making her uneasy about something that didn’t really matter at all.
Your kids are happy and that is all that matters. They shouldn’t have to worry about making you mad because they accidentally dropped a few pieces of cereal on the floor or they might have made a crayon mark on the wall. I mean I am all for teaching children responsibilities, like picking up after themselves. But it shouldn’t be a constant demand.
I have come to the realization that as long as I have kids under my roof, my house will never be spotless. They are always busy running around like maniacs, playing with their toys, and leaving things out of place.
And you know what? That’s OK!
Carpets can be cleaned, walls can be repainted, and furniture can be replaced. Enjoy this very short, messy time of your life! A clean house doesn’t last forever and sadly, neither does a messy house.